When I was 19 and in college, I was talking to one of my roommates. I remember exactly where I was standing when she mentioned that a woman from her hometown was going to be a surrogate.
“What’s a surrogate?” I asked.
She said “oh, that’s when you carry a pregnancy for someone who can’t.”
MIND. BLOWN. Literally, I remember thinking “ohmygod, that’s the coolest thing I’ve ever heard.” I asked if the baby was related to the surrogate and she said “no, it’s related to the parents. They create an embryo and then the surrogate just carries the pregnancy.”
It was in that moment that I decided I was going to be a surrogate. I didn’t even have kids yet and I didn’t even know if I wanted kids. All I knew was in my heart, I felt called to be a surrogate.
Fast forward a few years. I kept surrogacy on my mind and mentioned it to my husband as something I wanted to do. I knew you had to wait until you had your own kids first before becoming a surrogate.
After my son and daughter were born, I felt done having kids. So then I told my husband that I wanted to be a surrogate. He was surprised at first. He didn’t think I was serious. But I was definitely serious. So I started researching surrogacy heavily. At the time, I was working a night shift at a hospital and had quite a bit of time to do internet research.
I spent a lot of time reading surrogate blogs and I learned so much. The more I learned, the more right it felt. I couldn’t wait to get started.
So then I talked to an agency. The surrogate coordinator that I spoke to was a surrogate herself. I kept her on the phone for 2 hours! She was one of the nicest women I’ve ever talked to. That was in 2012 and we still keep in touch.
At that time is when the song “Call Me Maybe” was on repeat all the time. Apparently I told her on the phone that the surrogacy version of that song is “hey I just met you, and this is crazy, but here’s my number, I’ll have your baby.” hahahaha . I’m hilarious. She brings this up all the time.
Anyway. Surrogacy was on my heart from the moment I heard about it for the first time. It just felt like the perfect way for me to be able to give to others and have a big impact with my life.
Not only have I built my family, but I have helped build another and now another. It’s life changing. And not only for what it does for the Intended Parents, but what it has done for me. It’s not my only purpose in life but it has given me more of a purpose.
What do you think about surrogacy? Have you thought about doing it? Reach out and let me know!