One of the questions I get asked the most is “how do I become a surrogate?” So I thought I’d make a separate page explaining how to become a surrogate.
First, do you meet these requirements?
- Live in the United States
- Are at least 21 years old
- Have at least one pregnancy with no complications
- Are raising your children
- BMI is less than 32
- Financially stable (not on any government assistance)
- Able to follow doctor directions, take medication and complete any tasks required of you
- A support network
These are just the basic, minimum requirements to be a surrogate.
I’ll go through each one and explain a bit more.
Surrogacy in the United States is currently legal in most states. It is illegal to be a surrogate in Michigan and New York. So unfortunately, if you live in either of those states, currently you are not able to be a surrogate.
You have to be at least 21 years old to be a surrogate. This is just to help make sure you are more financially stable and to handle the surrogacy process.
You have to have a complication free history of pregnancy and delivery. This means that your pregnancies have all been full-term (at least 37 weeks) and you haven’t had any serious complications during pregnancies. That will mean no diagnoses of high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, IUGR, etc. This is to make sure the surrogate will be safe while carrying future pregnancies and the baby will be safe also.
You have to be raising your children that you’ve had. This helps with the stability factor.
Financial stability means that you aren’t on any government assistance like SNAP, WIC, medicare, food stamps, cash assistance, etc. This is because there are times in surrogacy where the surrogate might have to cover a few costs and then be reimbursed later. It’s important that surrogacy does not negatively impact you or your family and adding a financial strain would do so.
Your BMI needs to be less than 32 and in some cases, less than 30. Now don’t get me started on how ridiculous the BMI is because I could rant forever. I don’t set this and I don’t necessarily agree with it but that’s what the fertility doctors have decided so it needs to be followed.
You’ll also have to be able to follow doctor’s orders and directions which are a lot, able to take medications and follow those directions to a T (which almost always requires you to give yourself daily injections) and able to complete directions and paperwork from lawyers, etc. So if you get confused easily or struggle to follow directions, surrogacy probably isn’t for you because there is a lot you have to do.
Finally, you need a support network. This is because surrogacy is a huge commitment. It will take time away from your life and you need others to be able to step in and help you. You might even end up on bedrest and need others to help you take care of your children. So having people around you who support you and are willing to help is super important.
Now if you’ve made it this far and are saying “yes! I meet all those requirements and I still want to be a surrogate!” here are the next steps.
You can reach out to a surrogacy agency. There are many great agencies out there and their role is to help make surrogacy as easy as possible for you. Now heed this warning, there are also a lot of shitty agencies out there and agencies that aren’t that great. If you’d like an agency recommendation, please contact me and I’ll help you find the best one.
You can also pursue surrogacy independently meaning without using an agency. If you choose to do this, my recommendation is that you learn as much as possible first. Research, research, research. Making sure you know what you’re doing is important because it’s all going to fall on you if you do this independently.
So what do you think? Do you meet the requirements and still want to become a surrogate? It’s honestly one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done in my life.
If you’re interested and want more information, contact me below and let’s chat!